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XOXOX

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To tell, or not to tell...

Sometimes the truth is not always pretty, but it just has to be told. And I appreciate honesty, even when I don't agree with 'em sometimes. I saw a few blogs recently that posted thoughts about 20 things they want the other gender to know about theirs. And it's interesting to know what others have to say, because there can never be the same thought. There might be similar opinion, but never the same thought. Because 2 people can read the same book and come up with different summaries. And that's what's interesting about the human mind.


I made this up from all the stories that I heard from friends that have had or are in a relationship (considering I have no experience whatsoever, please excuse me if there's anything I wrote that could possibly be wrong). But hey, hope this is something you'd see and make you go, "Hmmm, that is (sort of) true..." So here's my version about 20 things girls want guys to know!


1. We just don't like being rushed. Don't rush us to love you, because those sorts of feelings are not something we can create, it just happens. So if you keep pushing us to do so, then nothing's ever going to happen.

2. We would appreciate it if you don't tell us who to go out with, where to go to, or what time we should be home. We have our curfews, we know the limits. My parents don't make it a big deal, so shouldn't you.

3. "Up to you," or "Don't know," are such a turn off whenever we ask you questions we really need for you to answer. It could have piss us off real bad!

4. If we say, "No sex," then we mean "I'm keeping it for my husband." Some girls, like me, have standards in life. Respect that.

5. Tell us your dreams. We are good listeners, trust us. We're not gonna laugh at your wildest dream like your guys would. Unless when your dream is to sleep with Scarlett Johansson.

6. Never EVER compare us to your ex(es). We're our own person, and it's better off if you let us know that we are so much better than your last(s).

7. Compliments are essentials! Lots and lots of it. If we say, "Oh, stop!" We actually meant, "Go on..." ;)

8. We don't look at other guys from head to toe whenever we're going out with you. So appreciate our presence, will 'ya?

9. We have a hard time getting over a guy whenever we're done with one guy, and it hurts us whenever you move on quickly after you're done with us (which most likely would happen)

10. We know you're not mind readers, but silent treatments, shoulder shrugs, tears, yelling, or nasty looks-- all add up to... YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG! What more signs could you possibly need?!

11. "I was wrong," beats the heck out of any three words you say every single day! Which are 'I love you', 'I miss you' or 'I need you.' (In some cases, of course...)

12. If you're about to do something stupid, we would like for you to consider if it's something that would like to be done towards your Mom or lil' sis, then maybe you'd think twice!

13. Anything you do or say to another girl that you wouldn't want us to know about is considered cheating.

14. We don't like it if you act differently or be a jerk around your friends.

15. No girl would ever want to only be your "friend with benefits."

16. If you don't want us to expect you that you read minds, then don't expect us to be, too! Telling us your true feelings would make a world difference :)

17. Open the door for us, lead the way when we're in crowded places, or cook for us-- I don't know, think of something creative, because as much as we like everything well planned, sometimes surprises don't hurt ;)

18. We fully understand that you are a human with feelings, show it to us! Crying is okay every once in a while, you don't need to always keep your guards up every time.

19. We know you're funny and all, but having serious talks about the future can make us fall head over heels too, you know.

20. Don't expect us to be perfect when you have issues yourself.

And an addition from me is that not all girls like to dress up and wear make-up every time. I enjoy my Converse and tee-plus-jeans most of the time, so don't expect all of us to be exactly the same ;) We're different and beautiful in our own ways, and if you got a problem with that, then honestly, it really is your loss. Haha!


KEEP THE FAITH
XOXOX

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HOW INDONESIAN ARE YOU? LOLLLLL

Copied from Tiffany! I seriously had a great series of laughs doing this :) So much fun!



1. Your stomach growls when you don't eat rice for a day. :)
2. You believe kecap ABC could turn bad cooking to gourmet food.
3. You know more than 10 acronyms/abbreviations.
4. You talk during a movie.
5. You use a dipper instead of toilet paper in the bathroom.

6. You eat fried rice in the morning.
7. You prefer seven jeans or true religion jeans over Gap or Levi's.
8. You don't think Jim Carrey is funny.
9. You think Onky Alexander is a hunk.
10. You think Rhoma Irama is kampungan.
11. You carry a 16 oz. jar of sambal to where ever you travel.
12. Driving a car that is cheaper than $15,000 embarrasses you.
13. You think dangdut is stupid, but listen to it anyway, because you are homesick.
14. You are willing to travel 25 miles to buy tahu and tempeh.
15. You are "Dreaming of a WARM Christmas".
16. Your local McDonald's serves rice and sambal.
17. You think Super Mie is a staple food.
18. You have ever tried passing a Rp 50 coin as a quarter in a US vending machine or pay phone.
20. You have ever successfully bribed a customs officer.
21. When watching TV you regularly find that all the channels broadcast the same thing.
22. You do your shopping in Singapore.
23. Your drivers license claims you are 5 years older then you really are.
24. You have ever legally bought pirated software or VCDs.
25. You have ever been forced to memorize UUD'45.
26. You have bought something from a barefooted street peddler.
27. You know exactly how many islands Indonesia has.
28. You have ever eaten something sold off a cart on wheels.
29. You realized that money is everything before you were six.
30. The first thing that comes to mind when hearing the word "Jakarta" is "macet".
31. Someone you know has ever ridden on top of a train.
32. Your daily commute includes thinking up new ways to ride the city bus for free.
33. You don't mind people being late.
34. You think standing in line is a waste of time.
35. You have tried every Monday of your youth trying to avoid upacara bendera.
36. You have used a mosquito repellent that looks like a coil and is lit on one end.
37. You use the terms "Ni yee", "cai-lah" and "Ih, jijay" on daily basis.
38. You know what Pancasila is, what it means and know it by heart.
39. You complain that movies in America don't have sub-titles.
40. Your daily conversation may include enactments of TV commercials.
41. You have ever consulted a dukun.
42. Your whole class has ever cheated on a test, and gotten away with it.
43. You have ever spent the night before an exam looking for someone who sells the questions.
44. You like the smell of terasi.
45. You think the Thomas Cup is equal to the Super Bowl.
46. You can name a manufacturer of shuttlecocks and badminton birdies.
47. You have a 16' satellite dish hidden in your back yard.
48. You have ever ridden in a motor vehicle with three wheels.
49. You miss your maid on laundry day.
50. Your clothing has brand names printed on it that are visible from 50' away.
51. You attend weddings only until you are done eating.
52. You have attended weddings that you are not invited to.
53. You go to McDonald's to get your weekly supply of ketchup, salt, pepper and napkins.
54. You know more than one music group that stole the tune of Cranberries' "Zombie".
55. You have a can of Baygon on your kitchen table.
56. You make major decisions based on gengsi.
57. You take advantage of Wal-Mart's 30-day money-back guarantee to "borrow" home appliances.
58. Someone in your family has extra pockets in his outfit to hide cookies from the all-you-can-eat bar.
59. You have paid more than $1,000 to get your name on your license plate.
60. You carry your hand phone always, even to a 'no service' area.
61. You think bribery as a 'tip in advance'.
62. You think of the road as a place to park.
63. You fly Garuda just to get to know the stewardesses.
64. You send your kids to US & Australia just so they can go to school.
65. You go to a park and drink 'teh botol'.
66. You travel to L.A or Sydney from Jakarta more than 3 times a year.
67. You mix soccer and boxing at the same time.
68. You consume more cloves in your cigarettes than in your food..
69. You have more credit cards than your wallet can hold.
70. You have a car with 20' wheel.
71. You work for the government to get rich quick.
72. Your friends in the US & Australia refer to you as their 'Indonesian connection.'
73. You have been to a motel that can 'hide' your car.
74. You give guests a roll of toilet paper or a box of facial tissues to wipe their hands after eating.
75. You are very good at avoiding potholes and other road hazards.
76. Hate it when you use local made product.
77. You think Soekarno is the greatest Indonesian President.

SOURCE: "I am an Indonesian or lived in Indonesia too long" group on facebook!

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A Saturday Morning Thought

And how can you truly forgive, if you never forget?


It's not that I hold grudge against people who hurt me. But why does it still give me a 'punch in the heart' every time someone brings it up and ask me about it?

I think no matter how many times we tell others how we've gotten over something, somehow deep down it's still there, the pain relives itself. And no matter how many times we say we got our invulnerability ready of change, we just never get used to losing people. Especially when that person left a special mark in our life.

The hardest part about moving on is picking up the pieces and throwing it all away. Oh no, wait, and also having to start all over again. I question God sometimes. And I think it's something we all can relate to, because we go through this phase too at one point or another. I question if there's really going to be a guy who's worth all the mishaps I've went through, having none of them getting to a point where I make it official, and stuck in a cycle which is meeting someone- being friends, going somewhere and have to go back to the first step all over. But someday there would be this one guy who makes all this questions sound stupid, to make all the pain worth something, to make the tears actually worth shedding.



KEEP THE FAITH
XOXOX

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"A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other... Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever..." 



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XOXOX

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Life is like an hourglass. Eventually, everything hits the bottom. And all you have to do is wait until someone comes along and turn it all around.





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XOXOX

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It Takes Two to Tango

I know some people are good with lyrics, some paint to express themselves, some with words, and I guess I fall into that category, I write because I have something to write about, my intention is as simple as that, not because I expect people to even read it, so honestly, from the bottom of my heart, I really thank those who even gave the time to read and those who even comment here on facebook or on my blog (besides Twitter. I felt like it's becoming a daily diary too). And personally, to me this has become a regular thing for me and what I write is also personal, what's close to the heart, that's why I deleted some of my friends on facebook, I just don't want to open up to some random people, so I just want to have a word without even saying a word, you know? (sorry if that confuses you) 'Cause I do feel like it would make you know me so much better, almost like an unspoken conversation that is written. I know I might not be the only person to have experience all this I'm about to talk about, so if some people chose to not share it to the world, I'm the exact opposite, I'm willing to speak up :)


I've been mislead so may times I can't even remember how much. Or was it just me that's bad in interpreting signals? I've never been the person to say the word love easy, 'cause I love to take my time, and I mean really take my time. What is there to rush, right? You can say I have trust issues, I don't mind, because frankly that's how I am, so why deny something that is one part of who I am, I might be stubborn at times but I would definitely admit if something is true.


It would be such a lie for me not to confess, I did regret some of the decisions I took in the past. There is one who showed his feelings too early, that I honestly haven't even thought about growing any feelings towards him just yet, so I think things too rushed are just not good. Easy come, easy go, remember? There's one that had no feelings towards me at all and yet I fell for him so hard so fast. There's one that was heading towards that direction, yet he took it as just some kind of game. There's one who just liked the chase, there's one who put me as an option, meaning if he doesn't get me as his girl, he has a bunch others in his closet that he can just pick and go out with. One that I fell head over heels for yet he make me feel like I'm invisible. One who made me a rebound, and one who thinks money can go a long way. Really? At this era? Sad, shallow guy. It's not about how many guys who came in and out of your life, it's how deep a guy has been a part of your life. Same goes to friendship, there can be a ton of friends, but those close to the heart are a few.


I know my friends think that I can come across as mean to guys, and I never even wanna hurt anybody, but I just say it like it is. If there's no sparks, and if I know that there's never going to be, then I'll be straight up, I don't want to keep a guy guessing, because I know I don't like to be kept guessing, and quite frankly I'm bad at making things up, ask my brother, he knows that so well. I just don't like a guy who tries too much, I want everything to flow, I don't need forced impressions, I just want everything to fall into place. And maybe surprises won't hurt, 'cause as much as I hate crushing on my own best friend, sometimes it happens, and there's nothing I can do about it. Bottom end, I think what matters is that you can talk for hours without running out of conversations. Someone you can have long and deep talks to, but also someone who adds a dose of humor so you really look forward to talk to him. So, girls, when you're asking, "What are you doing right now?" every 2 minutes then you know there's nothing there.


No people are created bad, and I believe there are no bad guys, they just grew up in the middle of all the wrong people, or they make ridiculous kinds of decisions, or they just can't resist any other temptations. In short, nobody is a bad person, they're just good people who took the wrong path. That's why I always take my time, because as time goes, I see how stupid I was to even consider that guy as an option. I just happen to find out how their true characters are, before taking it further to more than just friends. It's not just like any ordinary gut feeling, it's so much powerful than that, and it surprises me every time whenever I found out that it's true. Well, what can I say, it runs in the family ;)




KEEP THE FAITH

XOXOX

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I know it might not be working at this moment, there might be some technical error, but if it does in the future, help us out and vote :) :) :)


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