What Separation Brings

Recent Song on Play: The Christmas Song (Chestnuts Roasting on An Open Fire)- Kenny G

So I guess as each and everyone of you have known, people change, and sometimes, the sad part is that those changes lead to separations. You don't count how many people left you in your whole life journey, but rather how strong you became after they left nothing but footprints in your heart. My parents' separation was a big turning point in my life. I became less spoiled, less demanding and less depending. One thing I never missed was my childhood, I had a fun childhood, not a jolly and memorable early teen years, but definitely getting better as I grew older. Many people ask if I missed my Dad, but as quoted from one of the greatest movies I've seen by far in 2011, "You can't miss what you never had."

Though he was never present in my life and now that he has built another whole new family in a different city, one thing that I'm sure of is that he completely and utterly loves me. The thing with divorces that parents committed is that they are, indeed, the grown-ups; they're suppose to know what the consequences are and how it will effect their children in the future. So even though I didn't agree with their decision, I trusted what they've chosen for us all.

I am just grateful for having enough common sense to never run to either drugs or alcohol, I can just never be any more thankful that God has taken amazing care of me. I wasn't born in a highly privileged family, so to have just lived and make it this far, it proves that it doesn't make me lucky, that makes me blessed.

I don't think anyone's to blame for such situation, sometimes you go through things in life that you don't understand, it isn't a delightful process, you question why you have to deal with them when everyone's living happily inside their bubble, but it certainly will help you get further in life. It creates this kind of thicker skin, because trouble causes life to descend, and your natural survival skills will kick in.

Some people hesitate to ask me things or even avoid to bring up the topic, well maybe how people deal with it is different, but for me, I have no issues with discussing about it. People became sympathetic after hearing about everything, I am pretty much fine with what happened in my life. Thankful, I am very much thankful to be totally honest with you. I would never have met the people that I met now if it wasn't meant to be this way. I'm not saying that I am the strongest person in the Universe and that I dealt with the whole separation thing effortlessly. Of course I once thought life was unfair, that God created a pair of parents to be there for their kids, that I want every Christmas spent with both parents, not to divide my time between the two, but life taught me that it doesn't have to be complete to be perfect. You might never can change the past, but the good news is, the future is still in good hands. Yes, I'm positive that it is in good hands.


keep the faith
xoxox

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Make Every Second Counts

Recent Song on Play: If You Were My Baby- Rick Price

First of all, praise the Lord for the return of the good ol' Hollywood movies. Well, not that the ongoing list of movies that I want to watch is now completely out in the theaters, but a few (okay, a couple...) have came out. Like Limitless and Source Code. I just had the chance to see Source Code a few hours ago, and although it was a movie that was a little out-of-the-box, so to speak, it was definitely not a disappointment. And Jake Gyllenhaal *squeals* is definitely an eye-candy and Michelle Monaghan was the perfect co-star for this movie, so flawless, and that blue top that she wore, couldn't be more perfect.

So, the movie reminds me a lot of Denzel's ever-so-famous De Javu, how you go back in time and space to "undo an accident," and in this case, a bombing of a train. The movie kept on going back and forth and it makes you a little confused at times, but it's a good thing, since you can't really guess what will happen next, or moreover, how the movie will end. Since it's a sci-fi movie, it defies everything that you believe, so just play along while you watch the movie, you'll get it... Hopefully. (Not that I understood the movie a hundred percent, I try acting smart just so people think I get the movie nyehee)

Well the way I see it, Captain Colter, who was played by Jake Gyllenhaal, got caught up in Sean's body in a military simulative system, called the Source Code, something used by the government to "go back in time" and search for clues in the location of the accident. As I said before, if you don't quite get how it works, don't sweat about it, just play along.

Time after time, after being sent back to the past, Captain Colter slowly received the missing pieces of the puzzle. As he's doing so, he met a girl named Christina inside the train and started falling in love with her. The mission changed in a flash. He wasn't just trying to find out where the bomb was placed, or who was the person who set up the whole scheme, but he also wanted to save Christina's life. Well, in the present, Christina, of course, has died in the bombing of the train that they were on, but Captain Colter managed to stop the whole bombing scene in the past and so they created this "whole new world" in the Source Code.

Don't really get the picture? No worries, you're not the only one. The highlight of the movie is that they only had 8 minutes before the bombing take place, how are you going to make the last moments of your life count? Captain Colter, who knew that he has less than 5 minutes to live, called his Dad to apologize because of the argument he had when they last met. What moved me was when his Dad said that he love his son-- always has, even though he has never straightforwardly shown it to him.

Although, to me, Vantage Point wins in the "keeps-you-guessing" perspective, the moral of Source Code definitely hits a homerun. I love how Colter kept saying "Everything's gonna be okay" when he consciously know that he will be dying in a matter of minutes. Tell the people you love that you can't live a day without them, show it to them before it's too late. Trying to make every second counts... Just live like you're dying.

Colter: Do you believe in fate?
Christina: Not really. I'm more of a dumb luck kind of gal. So, what do you wanna do today?
Colter: I think we should stay here for awhile. This feels like exactly where we're supposed to be, doesn't it?


make each moment counts,
keep the faith
xoxox

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Fast Forward to the Future

Recent song on play: Someone Like You- Adele

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited,
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it,
I had hoped you'd see my face,
And that you'd be reminded that for me it isn't over,

Nothing compares,
No worries or cares,
Regrets and mistakes, they're memories made,
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you, too,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"


Good things never last. You can't really say when will it end, the scary thing is that the worst part might just be around the corner. By the time it is free-falling, the burn is unavoidable. It's almost like dipping your hands and feet on burning flame; your skin is tearing, your flesh is showing. That's when you're most vulnerable. You will have dozens of stuffs that are so powerful, not that its level of importance matters, but the memory it carries thrust you in the heart. You will have millions of pictures together, and as you reminisce it one by one, you're going to recall the very same moment that makes your heart rip a little every time. The affection you once reciprocate, that mental state that once felt so secure and true. You're starting to think whether or not it's an illusion, if everything you once shared was just a false idea and belief. You know, you're questioning if you were being too naïve in giving it a one try. Painful is such an understatement; the words that are juggling in your head, voices that felt familiar- and finally, the flashbacks that rush your tears to come streaming down continuously. Wouldn't you just rather hide from love? How it started so flawlessly and ended just so tragically, unspoken with words... When silence proclaims your loudest agony. I guess everyone went through loss, but how far will you really blame yourself for the misery that occur? Some things are just out of our hands, some things are never meant to be... And there's nothing you can do about it.

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Break-Ups

Recent song on play: The Scientist- Coldplay
(My iTunes is on shuffle, don't 'thank' me for the perfect background music to accompany me while I write...)

Again, I'm not an expert, I'm trying to write from what my friends have experienced and a couple of references came from articles and such. So, my apologies in advance if there might just be some opinions on this post that didn't feel relatable to the truth or to what you have experienced firsthand.

I think to sum it all up, the book title "It's Called a Break-Up Because It's Broken" probably says it best out of any other words anyone can put together. It doesn't take a genius to figure it out, because if it wasn't broken in the first place, a break-up is not necessary. I think these are the 3 things that occurred before the breakup takes place.

1. Felt the crack
When you're heading towards the end, you can usually feel the difference long before the break-up is going to happen. Something's changing, whether if it was your partner, or the inevitable situations happening around you, it just doesn't feel right anymore. Sometimes it's not always a big fight that made it clear, it can happen without any huge occasion to mark the change, it can be an unexplainable feeling, but you can feel it... Safe to say that you can already feel the crack. This is just the beginning of the end, if you were to end it later on, then you don't have to fight for it. But on the other hand, if you still have faith in your relationship, there can surely be no wrong in taking a stand about it.

2. The (hidden and painful) Silent Treatment
When you're experiencing the gradual changes, you have two choices, talk it out between the two of you or get closer to the edge of the cliff. What's sad is that sometimes you can't even find where the crack began, so it's easy for the two to just let it slip by and shake it off because you think time will heal the pain... But it won't. Your relationship is beginning to feel sensitive, like every small detail triggers the biggest arguments. Then you're starting to find out... There's just no reason to stay.

3. Calling It Quits
When other people ask you who broke down the news, it's easier to say that it was a mutual agreement, but that's the biggest lie a couple could ever make, of course one of you must have suggested the break-up or even bring it to surface, nobody has just magically read the other's mind and silently call it quits. You probably realized that it was for the best, or it might be a shocking gesture to one of the two, since they think it was still worthy to be saved. I think every relationship needs a little boost every once in a while, but it has to be done by two people, a one man effort won't cut it. The relationship is not worthy to be saved when one of you has stopped trying. My advice is this simple, when it's hurting, that's when the loving needs to stop.

Recent song on play: The Last Goodbye- James Morrison.
(Oh, trust me, this shuffle knows me too well, sometimes better than anyone else in the world.)

I might not have experienced an actual break-up, but trust me, I've been there. I've felt every punch in the heart every time a song comes up, or a picture that reminds me by, every inside jokes that made me drop a tear, every texts that I read over and over until I feel like calling the person and tell him I miss him; I've been through every miserable phase possible.

It is going to hurt, I know people who experienced break-ups have this need of hearing comforting words, but I want you to know the truth-- it's going to hurt like hell. Especially if it was your first love, knowing that the person who left has taught you so much on love, you see yourself spending the rest of your life together, all those things that fell apart and frightened you when they stepped out the door. You're going to see them online some place and they are not going to start a conversation with you, and you will want to call them. You're going to accidentally run into them some place at one point or another, and you're going to remember all the beautiful memories you've spent with them in past. It is going to be a struggle every time... All things around you just remind you of what used to be, almost like the Universe is making it hard for you to move on.

I think you should avoid talking it over and over and over to your friends, I learn that it can only make you feel worse, so find the friends that have been through the whole journey, or even the friends that even introduced you to your ex in the first place, cry your heart out but don't dwell in the heartache. It's easier if you would avoid talking to your ex's friends, that way you don't have to hear about their updated stories, like if they're going out with someone new or anything that can cause you to fall into a much darker place. If you want to hear the sad love songs, cry yourself to sleep, then get it out of your system, you'll feel better after doing all the things above than to hold yourself back and act strong all the time.

Try your best to cut off all kinds of communications that may tempt you to talk to your ex. Some people like to torture themselves by stalking their ex, in which I think would just complicate the whole thing even more, or you can try doing what I do, I'm an extremist, I delete or sorts of contact details that might make me want to start a conversation. Do the Ex-Wax. It's almost like waxing because it might burn a little bit at the beginning, but I can assure you that it will help you in a lot of ways after you deleted all contact details.

Do not look for rebounds. It will not solve your heartbreak, you're just covering the pain by numbing it, but when you're starting to feel again, it will hurt even worse. You're living in the sadness because you might feel you're never going to find someone who will replace your ex, that you're not worthy of someone better, but you are. Hopefully you'll learn a lot from your past relationship to make the next one count and make you more mature in a lot of ways.




keep the faith
xoxox

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Maroon 5

Recent song on play: No Air (Acoustic Version)- Jordin Sparks feat. Chris Brown

I'm not even going to try to make a catchy headline, I want to make this one just as effortless yet memorable as it was in real life. The concert was held on a Wednesday, and the Sunday before the concert, Rizky actually blew the surprise for me! (Thank you, Iky! Hugs.) He asked Narendra, in front of me while I was accompanying him at band practice, if he was going to take me to the Maroon 5's concert. Being the honest and truthful man that Narendra is, he paused and stare at me for a while, not knowing how I would react, before actually saying that he is. And... Well... I was... Furious.

Well, because I told him, no more surprise concerts. He did three, including this one, in April alone. Bruno, Disney on Ice, and Maroon 5. I just think that's too much, I just feel like he's splurging way too much on tickets, but strangely (and thoughtfully) he always tells me, "Sometimes you mustn't think about the money, knowing how much it will make you happy." I mean, come on, you should have seen his face... How can you say no to an adorable puppy facial expression like his?


Recent song on play: For You I Will (Confidence)- Teddy Geiger

I had to work from early in the morning on the day the concert was held, and so he picked me up, met up at Aksara PI (I love that place!) to go to Istora with him, I remember he looked like he lost a few pounds and turns out he just finished his 3-days-without-carb-detox. But I contribute in him failing on his last day because he couldn't resist Beard Papa and Quickly! Yes, those are his Kryptonite.


We arrived at fX to look for parking spots, fX is just across Istora so we decided to get into the concert arena by foot. We were just talking about what if we would meet the people that we know at the concert and just before we could even look around, Sadie, a friend of Narendra from Mustang, was just outside and called us to join the crowd. She was with a few of her friends and we decided to go inside together, but we somehow got separated when Narendra and I wanted to take pictures with the cut-out cardboards!



We were kind of early for the concert and so after we pick our seats, we took a few pictures, before I realized I've done something stupid... That I've lost the entrance ticket. I mean, I know it's not a big deal and that it's only a piece of paper, but it's because of what the piece of paper was for and the memory that it contained that made my heart skip a beat when I realize that it wasn't in my pocket. I was trying to stay calm when I told Narendra that I may or may not have lost the ticket, but he knew the clumsy person that I was, so he smiled and help me find under the bench, look around the floor, and so I asked him to hold my bag before going outside to look for the ticket just to come back in and see him holding the ticket in his hand, telling me that I've kept it in my bag all along.



Recent song on play: If It Kills Me (The Casa Nova Sessions)- Jason Mraz

Turns out we met Sadie again inside just before the concert began, we sat next to each other and played a little game to stir up the night. Sadie, Narendra and I bet on what song that the band will play as the opening of the concert, so can you guess who got it right? Yes, ladies and gentlemen, none other than Narendra, who thought alike as the front-man of the band, Adam Levine, was also wearing the same outfit which was a plain white T-Shirt, denim and sneakers. The winning answer, Misery, kick-start the night. Everyone was so pumped and sang along, it was nuts! I heard the hysterical scream coming from all directions as Adam greeted, "Apa kabar, Jakarta?!"

He continued indulging our hearing senses as he sang "If I Never See Your Face Again" and "Harder to Breathe." He occasionally shouted that it was the best crowd he has ever performed for, I don't know if it was just trying to win his fan's hearts or if he truly meant it, but I do feel like the whole audience was like a big church choir just like in the Sister Act movie, Levine even admitted that everyone was singing in tune and sang the songs amazingly. Everyone screamed even louder as he said, "Aku cinta kamu," before dedicating his next song to all the ladies, "She Will Be Loved." (Oh, Adam... You know just how to allure the ladies, don't you?) Best performance of the night was the song that I've been looking forward to watch them perform live... Yes, what other song could it be but "This Love." He performed other of his hit singles, "Makes Me Wonder" and "Wake Up Call."


The band ended the performance and go back on stage for another 3 additional songs, including "Sunday Morning" to end the night. We screamed, sang and dance all night long, James Valentine slain the crowd with his performance, so did Jesse Carmichael, Mickey Madden and Matt Flynn. But of course, Adam Levine stole the show. If I could read everyone's minds I'm pretty sure all the ladies (Or even some of the men!) are undressing him in their minds. It was a show worth watching, and as we went outside, I can see all the smiles on everybody's faces, which pretty much describe that nobody came out of the concert disappointed. The concert felt too soon to end, but I guess time flies when you're having fun.

Narendra has to air on NTL (Never Too Loud), so I accompanied him to Mustang to see him air for the first time... Was a fun experience, hopefully will not be my last. Met Bayu and disturbed Narendra as I watch him work, took dozens of pictures and chatted too much that I think I should be banned from the studio:p


keep the faith
xoxox

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I Guess...

Life is going to be a surprise every time. The world spins just as unpredictable as the speed of rainfall. Some things need no explanation, you just have to leave it that way. Maybe some people move on just a little faster than you do and there's nothing you can do to restore what's left of the situation. Look forward with your eyes wide open, look back with your eyes closed. You can't really trust anyone in the world, but you boldly take the risk of having your heart broken. A vicious storm will not matter anymore when you see the sun rays striking throughout the clouds. You have to always try your best but still there are some things in life that are out of your hands. Something so close can feel so far, and something so far can feel oh-so very close. Some mysteries in life are meant to be lived, not to be figured out. The things you regret in the past will be something you'll be thankful for in the future. You plan out the things you want in life, but at times; life has a different plan for you.

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Want Versus Need

Maybe this time; I have to take a little break from writing about any other nonsense but my own self. Maybe this time, I have to learn to do something that I find is pretty tough to do, and that is to focus on what I want. Other than I want my blog readers to know the person behind all the absurd posts, I want to give you a tiny portion of what I've experienced in my life's journey. Please note that I'm just simply telling you a little bit of my story, of what I've been through, and I'm not seeking for any attention, any kinds of praise or compliment, I'm just sharing to you the person behind all the writings.

Hi, I'm Nadia, 18 years old (And honestly not looking forward to adding a number to my age and make it 19 in a matter of months). Every social network gives a segment to introduce yourself to the world through the "About Me" section, but I always think that it won't merely describe the person who owns the whole profile. I don't feel like I'm the most talented person in writing, I write because I love to write, I don't need more reasons to do so. The principle that I apply in other subjects, like in music for instance. The reason for someone to sing might be as simple as having a good voice, but is that enough to make you a true musician? No, to me a good singer is not only someone who has the pipes to hit the high notes, but to also be able to sing it from the heart. Because to succeed in something, you have to be able to make a connection. Writers have to connect with the readers, just as singers connect with the audience. I remember a quote that said, "Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life."

An occupation-- you might think, "Geez, what the heck, you're 18, young lady, what could you possibly know about having a job? And I mean the true meaning of a REAL job?"

Well, let me tell you my friend... I know just enough.

I've been working ever since I was 16 as a tutor, or you might know it as a study course teacher, not a common thing for Indonesians to work at this age, I know. Even Indonesians refer to it as "child exploitation," but I don't feel burdened at all, because I do it all with my own free will.

I tutored elementary kids at first, but thank God slowly I was trusted and sent High School kids, both Junior and Senior High. Again, I'm not an Einstenette, I'm not the smartest kid in Jakarta but I somehow find tutoring fun and I love dealing with kids, it's kinda funny how I learned so much as I teach. It was an awesome experience, honestly, so many hilarious and funny moments that I can't really write one by one. Moreover when I meet my friends, all they can do is laugh at me because all I can talk about is those kids, and they started calling me as a mommy because I talk as if I have already had dozens of kids. Well I meet them from Monday to Friday, even Saturdays when they have exams on Monday, so my life slowly became a part of these kids'.

Then in May 2010, one of my friends started introducing me to the world of ushering, I don't even consider this as a job, because frankly, you're there to stand and look pretty.

June 2010, I tried something new again; worked as a Sales Promotion Girl in one of the telecommunication company in PRJ. Since I still lived in Tangerang at that time, I was determined to live all by myself by renting a room in Kemayoran to work in PRJ, everyone think I was nuts because I was 17 at that time, and to be able to protect myself in a dangerous environment like Kemayoran, needs an "extra grace." The strange thing is, for one whole month that I lived all by myself & took care of everything without any help, I was given extra power from God the perfect health, 'cause the duty hours were irrational to me, I slept at 3 a.m and wake up at 7 a.m to work again, which I find amazing until this day! Even the girl that lived next door to me got robbed, but I was very thankful to be fully protected when I lived by myself. And what's even weirder, I even forgot to text people back home because I was drowned by the hectic work in PRJ. It was really one heck of an experience.

In July 2010, I experienced one of the biggest increase in life, I landed a job being the Brand Ambassador for Mercedes Benz. When given the reliability at a young age, it's so easy to feel pressured, but I felt challenged to be given the responsibility this big. They even admitted that they needed someone more experienced, but they tried taking a risk by hiring me. Here, I worked alongside Robert O' Connell and Adam Edermo who trained me "how to be a lady." They taught me how to talk like a woman, sit like a woman, and even walk like a woman. Sad how the lessons on being a true woman was given by a couple of dudes.

Mercedes has plenty of events that are divided in two, organizing an event or sponsoring an event. When they organized an event, I was trusted as the presenter in the event. Where as in sponsor, Mercedes Benz are associated with 3 types events; music, fashion and sports, and because Mercedes Benz acted as a sponsor, usually the work is nothing more than just being a display of the night. I am thankful because so many doors are opened through Mercedes Benz.

Maybe you might be thinking to yourself, "Oh, so you're not continuing your way to University?" And my answer will always be the same, not yet. Honestly, I have so plenty of dreams, so many buried passions that I want to achieve, and I feel like it's not (or has not been) the right time to make it all come true. But ever since my parents' separation, I know I have to act maturely just way above my real age. Just as Mercedes Benz took the risk of hiring me at a young age, I took the risk of working at this age, because just like London Tipton has said in one of the Suite Life of Zack and Cody episode, "Sometimes when you love someone, you've got to think of their needs first before you think about yourself." Sometimes I feel like I'm losing my youth, girls my age think about boys and about what-to-wears on Saturday nights, I am stranded somewhere working my butt off even on weekends. But I don't regret anything, I learned from most of the experiences in my life; to do what I need to do before being given what I want. And it's so true how I once read a statement that said, "God never gives you what you want, but He gives you what you need." Because without pain, you won't be able to be thankful for your health. Without people who left you, you won't be able to appreciate those who suffered and are always there for you. Without going through things that you need to go through, you won't ever get what you want. And it happens. I'm not the most religious person in the world, but in my life, what God did and will still do for me in the future are real, and I do feel that, my whole life... It's been nothing but grace. Because everything that happened in my life is not because of my own strength, needs an "Extra Power" to be able to go through everything. If for some people that is just not good enough, then you're just never going to feel satisfied. Because in life, sometimes all you've got to do is just-- keep the faith.

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What's There to Love?

I don't dress properly. I'm easy to bully and I'm not the pretty girl in class. My head is stuck between the pile of books reading about what causes human to sneeze. I'm not popular, and probably won't ever be. My friends talk about fashion designers, I talk about poets and authors. People are intrigued with drama, I try my best to stay away. Girls change boyfriends like changing which heels to wear, I'd fall in love with one guy, just as I stick with my muddy Converse. I'm random, I blurt out words that don't fit with conversations. I have a big laugh. I barely use lotion, I somehow like my zebra skin pattern. I stick my head out the window to feel the sunlight... Or rain. I sing about love, cry about love. I change my moods constantly, and not even with a warning in advance, which cause me to despise my ability to push people away that much more. I guess I'm not like most girls, but that doesn't make me feel left out, I embrace being different, although people think it's a silly thought. Guys who fell in love with me would either be stupid or just another hopeless romantic trying to win my headstrong heart. I'm a little insecure; I guess that you can already tell. My hair's always out of place. Well I guess I'm always a big mess.

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Self-Destructive

I know failure is not suppose to beat you up. But sometimes, in the middle of the disappointment you're in, you question yourself if it's possible for you to not be that useless in life. You have passions to prove that you could actually worth something. And when everything's a blur, it makes you feel not so special anymore. You think you're up for a great surprise, and when it didn't happen (or hasn't happen...), you begin to think if you were just meant to be like anyone else in the world. You know, you exist... But you barely leave a mark. Which makes your life boring, and feel like you're barely surviving in life. If I was to choose any kind of robot that I can become right now, I'd be someone who is self destructive. You know, you don't have to hurt anyone... But you.

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Save a Stranger with a Smile

Have you ever had someone smiling at you and it tingles, almost like it warms your heart? A smile that comes from the heart can make a world difference, it's both healthy and heartwarming at the same time.

It's not like it's a big task for us to do, we don't have to wait for the right moment to do it. You can do it anywhere, you can give it to anyone. Most importantly, it's free, people! What do you have to lose, now, really... For instance, if a waiter in the mall offers you a menu while you're rushing to go somewhere, smile at him rather than just silently pass him by. An offer rejected with a smile is always better than an offer rejected with a frown.

You might think, "It's just a simple smile... What can a smile possibly do to anyone?" And let me tell you, my friend, it can do a lot. Once, there was man who felt depressed and have planned his own suicide. He felt like everything in his life was wrong, everyone didn't make his existence felt important. His days just couldn't get worse, and one day he woke up and thought to himself in the morning, I need some kind of sign that God exists, that somehow God still wants me alive, give me one simple reason to live.

On the other side of the town, there was a man who went out for dinner with his son. He made a reservation but somehow he didn't get a table. Disappointed, they left and go to a "less fancy" place just near the restaurant they planned to eat in the first place. The man went inside the restaurant, pass by the depressed man and did something that changed this man's life... He smiled. The man who's depressed had an enlightening at that very moment. One smile turned his terrible thought around. He finally came to his senses that taking his life means he will lose a shot of saving other people's lives. His life might not seem important at the moment, but he thought about just how many people are going through the same thing and if he could have done anything about it. Long story short, he finally recovered from his depression and became a counselor for people who had suicidal issue. On another beautiful chance, the guy met the man who smiled at him and thanked him for smiling at him the other day. He told him how he felt about it (in a less gay-ish manner, of course!), how that simple smile warm his heart and changed his life. This man who smiled was shocked and feel glad at the same time, but he's thankful that he didn't take his own life.

Someone out there might be having a bad day and maybe you don't have to do much. Even if you could, it might take a day, a week, or a year to do something about it. Maybe, just maybe, all you need to do is just one simple thing-- and that is to smile:)


keep the faith
xoxox

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The Three (Ever-So-Famous) Status

● Single

It means you're depending on nobody else but you, more focused in what you want to do and you're only concerned about your own feelings. When you're single, you're most likely to be tempted to have a partner, and sometimes it's not easy to stand up on your own. Just remember that it's okay to be alone, what's not okay is to be lonely. The best advice that I can give to those of you who are single, being given the power to walk alone for the past 18 years, is that you don't need someone to define where you stand. It's pointless being with someone who doesn't make you happy, or if it's better for you to be alone. Get rid of all those thoughts of looking for someone who makes you feel complete, truth is, some people who are in a relationship still feel empty, which means the emptiness you're longing to fill can only be completed by you. Because in life, nobody holds the key to your own future but yourself, you decide where your ship sails, not anybody else. In short, as Oprah has said it, and I think nobody could have said it any better, you're responsible for your own future, no other person is or ever could be.

“When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere."
-Francois de la Rochefoucauld


● Taken

Or as Facebook has given us the choice in our "Status" option on our profiles: In a Relationship. This status is to legalize that both people involved are in an agreement that they're in love; well... They have to, or this status will just be another deceiving matter. What's sad sometimes is; even with this status that have been obtained by both parties, it doesn't guarantee that they're both in love.
Here-- is when it all comes down to being with someone who you will share half of your life with, but not necessarily with an engagement or marriage, it can just simply by being boyfriend and girlfriend. Where the relationship will end will result after they can settle with their differences, figure out how to agree in disagreements, and proven their loyalty to their partner. Sometimes when you're in a relationship, you reminisce of how happy you were back in the days when you're single, but if you were so sure before, what causes you to doubt now? Relationships are suppose to make you happy, if there is no reason where you can see yourself being happy, get out of it and don't dwell in your unhappiness any longer. Relationships shape you to become a better person because the right person always brings you to better changes.

"Relationships are always an important part of life. And I mean all relationships - friendship, love, marriage, relationship by choice, relationship by birth. Learn what makes them tick, why they sometimes go wrong, what one can do about it, and why they are so precious."



● In Love

Being in love is a stage where you let go of all your fear. The fear of losing, fear of getting hurt, fear of trusting someone. Love is supposedly something that makes you happy, and it makes you feel like life is worth living. You learn a day at a time that love is something you can't go without. Some people mistaken it as "just a feeling," like smiling for no reason, or having butterflies in your stomach, but those are just some of the signs, and that does not exactly define what love is. As a matter of fact, it is not something you can describe, but it is shown and felt as you give your heart to someone you feel is worth risking for. That's love, it's about taking risks. It's not a feeling you can pretend, it infiltrates all your walls of doubts. It is often mistaken as an obsession, but love is not about "claiming someone as yours," sometimes truly loving someone means you let go of that person because they're happier that way, even if it's seeing them with somebody else. Love is not something you can make, it just happens. I guess that's why they call it falling in love. You don't look before you fall. You just... Fall.

"There is no remedy for love but to love more."
-Henry David Thoreau


It doesn't really matter what your status right now is. Whether you're single, or you're officially in a relationship with someone, or you're emotionally attached to someone, because honestly, you don't write "How many guys I've dated" in your resume, do you? The point of choosing something for yourself is that you're happy about it. Not because someone makes the choice for you or you're happier living in a lie. So, does any name pop up as you were reading this? What status are you in right now?


keep the faith
xoxox

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Ambiguous

ambiguous |amˈbigyoōəs|
See note at DOUBTFUL .
• unclear or inexact because a choice between alternatives has not been made : this whole society is morally ambiguous | the election result was ambiguous.

I actually feel I've always been right, and you know what, I haven't found a reason to change my mind. You think guys had me easy? Well, think again. If it was called love, why is there so many tears involved? I am, sad to say that I pretty much am... Better off alone.


Maybe when God created me, He somehow skipped a partner, sent me straight down to Earth and thought, "Whoops... Oh well, I think she can handle the world on her own." And I feel like, maybe I can... With the help of my loving family and amazing friends, I feel like maybe I can do it... Just like how I've trained myself to... Being alone.

A heart can be broken, but it keeps beating just the same.

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