The Three (Ever-So-Famous) Status

● Single

It means you're depending on nobody else but you, more focused in what you want to do and you're only concerned about your own feelings. When you're single, you're most likely to be tempted to have a partner, and sometimes it's not easy to stand up on your own. Just remember that it's okay to be alone, what's not okay is to be lonely. The best advice that I can give to those of you who are single, being given the power to walk alone for the past 18 years, is that you don't need someone to define where you stand. It's pointless being with someone who doesn't make you happy, or if it's better for you to be alone. Get rid of all those thoughts of looking for someone who makes you feel complete, truth is, some people who are in a relationship still feel empty, which means the emptiness you're longing to fill can only be completed by you. Because in life, nobody holds the key to your own future but yourself, you decide where your ship sails, not anybody else. In short, as Oprah has said it, and I think nobody could have said it any better, you're responsible for your own future, no other person is or ever could be.

“When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere."
-Francois de la Rochefoucauld

● Taken

Or as Facebook has given us the choice in our "Status" option on our profiles: In a Relationship. This status is to legalize that both people involved are in an agreement that they're in love; well... They have to, or this status will just be another deceiving matter. What's sad sometimes is; even with this status that have been obtained by both parties, it doesn't guarantee that they're both in love.
Here-- is when it all comes down to being with someone who you will share half of your life with, but not necessarily with an engagement or marriage, it can just simply by being boyfriend and girlfriend. Where the relationship will end will result after they can settle with their differences, figure out how to agree in disagreements, and proven their loyalty to their partner. Sometimes when you're in a relationship, you reminisce of how happy you were back in the days when you're single, but if you were so sure before, what causes you to doubt now? Relationships are suppose to make you happy, if there is no reason where you can see yourself being happy, get out of it and don't dwell in your unhappiness any longer. Relationships shape you to become a better person because the right person always brings you to better changes.

"Relationships are always an important part of life. And I mean all relationships - friendship, love, marriage, relationship by choice, relationship by birth. Learn what makes them tick, why they sometimes go wrong, what one can do about it, and why they are so precious."

● In Love

Being in love is a stage where you let go of all your fear. The fear of losing, fear of getting hurt, fear of trusting someone. Love is supposedly something that makes you happy, and it makes you feel like life is worth living. You learn a day at a time that love is something you can't go without. Some people mistaken it as "just a feeling," like smiling for no reason, or having butterflies in your stomach, but those are just some of the signs, and that does not exactly define what love is. As a matter of fact, it is not something you can describe, but it is shown and felt as you give your heart to someone you feel is worth risking for. That's love, it's about taking risks. It's not a feeling you can pretend, it infiltrates all your walls of doubts. It is often mistaken as an obsession, but love is not about "claiming someone as yours," sometimes truly loving someone means you let go of that person because they're happier that way, even if it's seeing them with somebody else. Love is not something you can make, it just happens. I guess that's why they call it falling in love. You don't look before you fall. You just... Fall.

"There is no remedy for love but to love more."
-Henry David Thoreau

It doesn't really matter what your status right now is. Whether you're single, or you're officially in a relationship with someone, or you're emotionally attached to someone, because honestly, you don't write "How many guys I've dated" in your resume, do you? The point of choosing something for yourself is that you're happy about it. Not because someone makes the choice for you or you're happier living in a lie. So, does any name pop up as you were reading this? What status are you in right now?

keep the faith

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