"Silence is Gold"

...so I’ve been told.

Let’s see, shall we? In several cases, meaning situations like when your parents are having serious talks about certain things for instance, while you’re goofing off and making fun of the subject, then of course it is. So you’d better keep those lips shut. But what if it’s about something a lot more than that, what if it’s something that you can’t keep to yourself? Something you have to say aloud? What if it’s a truth long hidden, that you have to stand up for it?

“Whoa, whoa. Hold your horses, Missy. It would help if you explain a little,” might probably be just the thought that came across your mind. Although everyone I know are spending their day in a mall some place, or even stuck in traffic, I’m happily glued to my bed next to books and DVDs, eager to write about other things and post them here. I watched The Help earlier today; Emma Stone played as the leading lady. Skeeter (Emma Stone) is a young, well-educated Southern woman, motivated to become an aspiring writer, and was given the chance to become one. The days that she lived in, wasn’t exactly drama-free. It was the years that the environment had issues with “colored” people. To sum the plot, the white people looked down upon the Negroes, where every black people were used as “rewarded” slaves. They pretty much do everything, from cleaning, to cooking, to raising their children. But the respects they received from people who employ them were anywhere near compassionate. Skeeter, who disagreed with how her friends treated the maids, decided that she would do something about it. What else can she do about it? She can write, she figures. So she started with writing a small column in the local newspaper. She then gathered her resources, investigating about how the black people who worked as maids feel, made it into the scandalous book that turned the town upside down. Although the maids that opened up had doubts at first for speaking up, they trusted Skeeter was going to be just the right person who will help them out of the blunder.

You can’t make the world a better place, unless you do what you can with what you have. In Skeeter’s case, she wrote about it. It’s scandalous, at the moment it’s even against the law to fight for equal treatment, but she did what she think is right. And it paid off. Some of her friends despised her, the things she did— but some actually stood up with her. Even the man who adore her and encouraged her to write, left her at the end of the movie, admitting to her that she’s better off alone, because he thought what she has written was ridiculous. But it didn’t make Skeeter regret anything.

“Some things you just have to keep for yourself.”


Yes, it might be true. As said in the movie, it might be better if some things are left unsaid. But what if one truth made a world difference? Silence might be gold, but speaking up is diamond. I know it’s hard to speak up for your self sometimes. But sometimes believing what’s right, means believing it on your own.



keep the faith
xoxox

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Love and Loss

Certainly two things we’re all familiar with. We must have been through either one, or if you’re lucky enough to experience both, then I guess you must be remarkably trusted by the Man From Above that you are capable to handle them. I recently lost my Uncle-- who is the husband of my Mother’s sister-- not too long ago, precisely a week before Christmas. The death was so sudden that it really caught the whole family off guard, for the reason for his death itself didn’t really seem lucid to me. It wasn’t because of age, for he was only 52 at the time he passed. It wasn’t because of a long-term illness, for he only complained of feeling a little unwell a day before his death. Then again, nobody really knows when their time will come.

A week before the loss, I also attended a funeral of a good friend of mine’s relative, which was also a mournful, terrible loss. It’s never easy to say goodbye. I mean, who’s ever ready to see the person they love for one last time? If you could do something about farewell, you would probably do anything for another chance to have them in your life. You’re beginning to realize just how much you haven’t embrace their presence in your life, when they were still alive. They were indeed, a part of your family.

I remember a man said, “You don’t even know about my family. My family put the ‘funk’ in dysfunctional.” I understand what he’s saying. No family is ever perfect. Some of them might even be incomplete. But even we are satisfied with our choice of friends, right? Friends are our right to choose, clearly, we’re satisfied with the selection of people in our daily lives. Now we’re talking about family here. Family is chosen for us, by God. You might think God misplaced you some place, that you’re not meant to be in the family you’re in, or you have a better idea of the “ideal family,” but guess what, there is always a plan hidden somewhere. It’s not because God thought to Himself, “Hmm, I’ve run out of good families, I think this little fella wouldn’t mind Me placing him in this delusional and psychotic family.” No. It is because of great amount of love. Nothing is an accident. Even things that might seem like an accident, was actually a planned scenario. I know, God might seem a little tricky. But trust me, He always has something up His sleeves. It is not easy; to look at it that way. Especially if you think that your life is miserable enough-- you just lost someone, you feel depressed-- that you can’t do anything about it. Yes, you’re right. You can’t do anything about it. Death, loss, failures; you can never do anything about it. Like the choice of members in your family, you can do absolutely nothing about it. Why? Because it was not yours to take care of. You might row the boat as hard as you could, but if the wind and current are against you, it doesn’t take you far.

So let go of the things you can’t change and start with the things that you can do something about. If you can’t change the people or situation around you, change the way you see things. If you’re holding onto something that doesn’t drive you to become a better person, then let go. It’s better to let go of things that do your life harm than to hold onto the things that would drag you down. The choice is yours to choose.


keep the faith
xoxox

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A Fresh Start

Recent Song On Play: Flightless Bird, American Mouth (Wedding Version)- Iron & Wine

Hi, Earthlings! Glad to know that my blog is not deactivated by the server (yet!). All is well, except I just haven't been in the best shape for blogging... But hear me now, I am back. Better than ever. And when could be a better timing but the end of the year. I love to start the new year with a fresh start.

Fresh start. Who wouldn't want a fresh start? I mean, we all make mistakes and our choices might not be the best there is, but hey, above all, life is still good. And in the end, everything happens the way they should be. Don't worry if you think you can't move on, or the hardest part of starting over with someone is starting right down from the bottom. People see the bad side in trying to move on from a person of the past because you think it's going to be the same all over again. Therefore you have trust issues, you get insecure. Take it this way, when you're about to start a new relationship with someone, picture yourself being a totally renewed human being. Would you still want to do the same mistakes all over again? No, right? You would definitely learn from all the other faults you've done in the past, because there's another chance you might do it right this time. Picking up the pieces, I used to be scared of what might have been. But if you're too scared of the future, it might not even happen.

...and if I live a thousand years, you know I never could explain, the way I lost my heart to you that day. But if destiny decided I should look the other way, then the world will never know... The greatest story ever told.



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xoxox

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In Good Terms

It's common to become strangers again when your relationship with someone ended in great tragedy. So they say that lovers that end cannot remain friends. Is that true?

I know a lot of you have experienced-- or maybe speaking on behalf of people who don't have the experience, might heard from a relative or two-- that it's hard to stay in good terms when something didn't work out with someone. Maybe how it ends became the main reason, or there are some other explanations various people have in mind. Or perhaps when they meet or start a conversation, things get awkward, so they'll cut the chit chats and rather avoid or stay away from it.

It is simple actually. If it starts with love, end it with love. I don't see why you can't remain friends or build a good friendship. Truth is, if you really love something, the love never wears away. Things don't always work out the way you want it to, but I don't see the reason why you should become enemies.

It's either you will always love someone, or you just have never really loved them. Simple as that. I figure that if it's really love, they take a part of you with them when they leave forever.

Sure, people change, but love remains the same. Love is patient, love is kind. Sometimes love means slowly losing your mind. Hate can turn to love, but love... It is so powerful that it can't be converted to hate. Because love will always, and I mean always find a way.


Keep the faith
Xoxox

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Masses Of Masks

Why search for something vain and let go of something that lasts?
Who can heal the scars in your broken past?
Was it a crooked smile?
I can see it in your eyes,
How much pain can one man take?
It's clear to me just how your spirit breaks,
Or was it only a heart that had ached?
Like a shadow it shows,
Creeping in, so that nobody knows,
A blur but still somehow visible,
Laughing beneath a life full of lies,
Living under a soul that slowly and painfully dies.

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Dating Essentials

You might ask if I have any sleeping trouble for blogging at this irrational hour of the day... Maybe, yes. Most of the time, it's a no. But I get consumed by my thoughts a lot, this blog, I see it as a healthy alternative. So every time I get a chance to pour my hearts out here, I go on and do it. No second thoughts. Those posts made without thinking, are mostly the most honest and the truest out of all.

I thought it was going to be like in the movies. Rainbows and butterflies. The unexpected surprises. We all get the picture, right? The only thing looking anything like in the movies, is those broken-hearted scenes, with a depressed person being in bed, with tissue for a runny nose and puffy eyelid at 4 in the morning, half consciously typing words as they form sentences inside the head.

What's the point? What's the point of relationships; does anyone got an answer to that? Dating. What's the use? No one should be dating if they're gonna end up with a breakup at the end. No one should be dating if they go as far as finding someone better at the end, just to leave the other person behind. No one should be dating if they care a lot more for themselves than they do for the other person in the relationship. It's a joke. This relationship thing. And dating is like gambling, you can end up in two, marriage or a breakup. Successful relationships end up in marriage, unlucky ones remain single individuals again. It's a waste of time, mourning over someone who doesn't really care anymore, though. When everything is hurting and it's killing you on the inside. You recognize the person in the mirror, but you just don't know anymore. You just don't know. Nothing was suppose to change. Everything around might be changing, but love remains the same. I should have known... I should have known better. I'm not disappointed at anyone. I'm most disappointed at myself. If only I see the good in men. How can I see the good in men if they're just another unfaithful, dishonest & selfish human being? You're with him, but his thoughts are some place else. It's sad, really. When the presence of two people feel more empty than a single loner.



keep the faith
xoxox

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Fix You

Recent Song On Play: She Is Love (Acoustic)- Parachute

I went to my first concert on December earlier this week! Was among the lucky few to witness Train's concert on Monday. The band that got every girl wanting to get hitched from listening to their single "Marry Me," and also got the Ukulele ringing in our heads because of "Hey Soul Sister" sure swept us off our feet. Their tour was titled "Save Me, San Fransisco" and I just found out not too long ago that it was their 5th studio album. Wow, talk about a long journey to the top! But from a reliable source (that I can't give you the name of, it's confidential), Train was reportedly a very positive band. And I came to realize that they really are. In the press conference, the band-- when asked what kept them going all this years-- gave a very humbling and honest answer, it was because they were always thankful. I sound kinda stupid, but it proves to me that in most cases, good guys really do finish last.

We all wanna be the hero, right? We all want to change the world. But guess what? You can't do that because no matter how noble or positive you may be, there will be people against you or people who critique you or dislike you. That's just the way this Universe works. You can't please everybody.

It is hard to fight against the current. It is always easier to be drifting away with the waves. It's logic. To stain something is easier than to clean a mess up. Positive will always be harder to be accepted than negative. That's why truth always hurts more than lies. You can't always want to change things the way they are. But you can do one thing. You can try. You can only do the best. Hope for the best. One good change is better than no change at all.




keep the faith
xoxox

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"Dreams Are For Losers..."

I didn't think about the consequence,
It didn't even make any sense,
Like floating on empty space,
Walking on sand without a trace,
Dreams are a chain of emotional burst,
Satisfying each of your ambitious thirst.

Welcome to my reality,
A place where I can't even have my own identity,
They told me what to do and where to go,
All that I hear is people saying 'No,'
"Dreams are for losers," that's what they say,
But not one word can lead me far astray.

You can call it what you want; a joke, maybe a fantasy,
Spiteful comments, so mean and nasty,
I was forced to follow life's trend,
But I dream with my eyes wide open,
I'm not stopping, not until they arrive,
For they are my dreams-- that keep me alive.

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Enough

It's December and I know what you're thinking; we're heading towards the end of the year already and yet-- it almost feels like there's not much that you did this year. Or things that you wish you could have done better, or there are a lot more things that you haven't done at least. Or is it just me? If there is one thing that human will never get enough of is the feeling itself-- being content, as in the feeling of having or doing enough.

Isn't it in our nature, though? Of the need to do or want more? Maybe that's the thing that drives us to our goals, the ambitions. I recently watched a fictional movie called The Adjustment Bureau. So basically it's about a man that is in the middle of an election to run the country. Somewhere along the way to the peak of his career, he met this woman and instantly fell for her. Everything felt right from the beginning. One thing that you should know is that the plot of the movie basically created this group of people that can "control" how the whole world works. The Chairman, that I picture as the "God" because he is the one that wrote the fate and has the ultimate control over everything, employs a group of people to take care of everything going on. In short, this group of people told this man that in order for him to do well on this road he's on, as in his journey to The White House, he has to leave this girl because she'll do his future harm. There's no exact reason told in the movie why that is possible, but this group of people just kept on getting in the way for them to get together. The girl even had dreams herself. Her dream was to become a professional dancer. But the girl herself couldn't hide her feelings for him. She even tried another relationship with a guy that she soon got engaged to, but broke him up for the guy of her dreams, the one she was told she was not suppose to be with.

It's kind of complicated to tell you how the whole movie goes. You have to see and rate the movie for yourself to be able to have a say on what it really is about. To me, it's about feeling content of what you have. The man risked everything he has to go for this girl that he was sure of. I don't know what he was sure of. But she surely made him feel enough. There's a moment in the movie where the man said that she was enough. It somehow showed me that dreams change as you meet other people. Especially people that became your dream came true. But maybe, just maybe, having enough is enough.

"All I have are the choices that I make, and I choose her."


keep the faith
xoxox

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